Anger is largely misunderstood. Sometimes Christians (Christ-ones) will speak of rightoeus anger as a way of justifying or making provision for what is actually fleshly anger. They will justify judging people for their sins. This is very different from judging sin to be against God's will. And, this is very different from Church discipline, which is carried out by specific biblical offices that function according to a specific biblical order that governs discipline in the Church Universal and the local churches.
Scripture on anger:
Why do you suppose that it is not good to make friends with a person who is prone to anger? Verse 25 gives you the answer. You don't want to learn his (or her) ways. His ways can automatically become a snare to your mind. A snare is a trap that springs and catches you by surprise. How does this work? Sin is born in; that is true. We all inherit a nature prone to sin-some toward certain sins and another of us prone toward different sins. However, sin is also learned. It is easily learned. It is learned by example, by teaching, or by doing. When you get close to someone in friendship, you tend to pick up their traits, whether good or bad.
Have you noticed that pride is close to anger? A proud person is much more prone to anger. A humble person is less prone. Humility is simply seeing reality as it really is. Pride is the lack of humility. Pride is unrealistic about life.
Don't let anger turn into brooding bitterness.
Anger is a universal human problem, though we all get angry in different ways. And some poeple give themselves over to anger until they are controlled by anger. If you allow anger to fester in you, if you don't forgive, anger will lead to bitterness or an underlying tone of anger known as
James 1:19-20 My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.
You cannot just will yourself to do this. You must pray and practice this. Identify the early signs that you are going to become angry. Go to Jesus early, as soon as you recognize the early sign of coming anger.
Don't cultivate your anger.
Don't consider that your anger is doing something good. It is not. Don't justify it.
Trigger events are always associated with anger.
It's how we evaluate the trigger event that matters.
Strategies to Correct the Situation
“thanks.” Simply being thankful will do wonders. Most anger is linked to unthankfulness. Practice saying, "Thank you," to everyone who is in any way helpful or not unkind to you. Look for any excuse. Practice saying, "Thank you," to God for everything, especially your troubles. If you truly understood the reason for trouble, temptation, and tribulation in your life, you would be very thankful.
Change your attitude from “give me” to “thank you.”
Never use anger to control or to prove anything.
Do not justify anger by the trigger.
Identify floating hostility
Trouble controlling anger
If you have trouble controlling anger, you need to know that there is a way to overcome this.
If you lived for years in a home where anger was prevalent, you are likely to be prone to anger. This is especially true if you we a child being raised in that home.
The reason that being exposed to anger causes difficult problems with either fear or anger is because of the way that the nervous system works. Children especially have trouble coping with extremes of emotions when those emotions are displayed by their parents. Parents who have nasty fights in front of their children do untold damage.
When exposed in this way to negative emotion, fear triggers a physical reaction in the child.
Anger, rage, addiction, sex drive, and trauma are also housed in this lower part of the brain, at the brain stem. Secular humanists (atheists) will tell you that this is the reptile brain, sort of an evolutionism dogma. Of course, this is untrue, but there is a part of your brain that God created a few thousand years ago that controls automatic things like swallowing, heart beats, breathing, or pulling your hand back when you have been burned. This is the part of the child's brain that is affected. This part of your brain handles flight, fight, freeze responses to fear. The way God created it, the distances are very short, so the reaction time is very fast. This part of the brain is what drives fear, anger, sex, and addictions. It is outside of consciousness, but the conscious mind was created to control it.
When the child, or anyone, is afraid, powerful hormones are released. God designed these hormones to be released for only a very short time in rare instance of emergency. Children were not supposed to be exposed to things that caused them to have this kind of fear. Parents were made to protect the children, not to destroy them with unnecessary fear.
The first hormone to be released is adrenalin, and it should only be in the system for a short time or it can cause serious physical harm. If the fear or anger continues, then cortisol is released. If the cortisol stays in the system more than a very short time, it causes brain damage.
When a child is repeatedly exposed to parents who fight, that child will have repeated incidents of stress that cause this reaction. With each incident, the child will develop more robust nerve systems to carry the message. In other words, they get a skill at getting upset. If you are familiar with the term, muscle memory, this is the concept. Muscle memory is not in the muscles but in the nerves that carry the message to the muscles. The same happens here, but the distance is so short that there is no time to react or intercept the signal by the conscious mind. If you think of it as electricity flowing, the wires are very fat and can carry a lot of current, creating a very strong reaction. The reaction is the release of adrenaline and cortisol.
So, if you have a short temper, this is your condition. This may have happened as a child or as an adult. Anger is a learned skill. If you get angry a lot, you gain the skill of getting angry. After a while, you can't control it.
There is a way out, but it takes time. If the over-developed nerve pathways are not used, they will atrophy. That is, they will shrink away from lack of use. (This is also true of fear, addictions, sexual perversions, etc.) So, what you need to do is to keep the nerve pathways from being used. But how?
Step #1 Identify the early warning. When you are going to get angry, there is some sign that lets you know before the final blow up. You might start sweating in your arm pits or hands. You might get a twitch in your face of a muscle. You might feel your face flush. Everyone is different, but you must identify what happens to you. Generally, fear will often precede anger, so if you can intervene consciously before the fear, you will have an edge.
Step #2 Create a strategy to intervene. When you sense the early warning, you will need to intervene. You will not be able to do this unless you know how you are going to intervene. The best strategy is to turn to Jesus Christ. Learn to put things into the eternal perspective. Consider that God is aware of every electron going around every nucleus of every atom in the Universe and He can certainly handle this. Stop listening to the voice of Satan who is the one who is stirring up the fear and anger. Listen to the Voice of God. Let His peace wash over you. Think of your connection with every other person who names the Name of Jesus. Think of how Jesus suffered for you on the cross. Thank Him. Praise Him in your mind. Consider that the stress you are under is part of what God is providing to conform you to the image of Jesus Christ, God's Son. Thank God for that. You can also breath deeply through your nose or sigh. God built this into your body for you to use.
Step #3 Identify the triggers that cause you to go over the top. These are not the cause of your anger, but you need to know what they are.
Step #4 Practice, in your mind, having each of those triggers take place while you use your strategy to intervene. Take some time to pray about this and allow God to help you. Deal with the root of each trigger. If a person is involved, forgive them. Pray to God that He forgives them. Thank God that He is taking away your habit of getting angry over that trigger.
Step #5 Put it into real-life practice. Every time you sense your early warning sign, begin to intervene. If you fail sometimes, just ask Jesus to forgive you and try again. Do not make excuses. A broken and contrite heart are what God will accept. The Holy Spirit will change you.
Here is what is really happening. At every moment, Satan is speaking to you and trying to lead you and the Holy Spirit is speaking to you and trying to lead you. When you ignore Satan and listen to the Holy Spirit, faith comes. Faith cometh by hearing the word (Greek: rhema = utterance) of God. Faith gives you access into God's grace. Grace does the work of God through you--in this case, peace and patience rather than anger. This is what yielding to the Holy Spirit is. When you yield to the Holy Spirit, you are changed. You are transfigured just a little bit. Good seed is sown into the garden of your mind. This changes what you are. That is known as holiness. Holiness is progressive. And holiness is accompanies by redemption. Redemption refers to a slave being set free. Redemption is also progressive. All of this will have its final culmination in the manifestation of the sons of God, when the Church comes in the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect (totally complete) Man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ.
Last updated: Mar, 2014
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